Posts Tagged ‘OCD’
…you know, with my “Actually guys if I want to peel off my epidermis or bite myself or stab myself with needles or bang my head on things, maybe you can let me decide for myself whether I can cope with the pain, okay?”
Yep. I’m the person who actually wants society to enable their weird behaviors and isn’t going to let allistic supremacy get in the way of my self-determination.
And it occurs to me that society has this habit of treating pain like it’s a nuisance and needs to be overcome when it comes to, for example, exercise (“No pain, no gain!”) or other things it has deemed beneficial, or will readily tell you that you need to be strong and magically get over your unpleasant reactions to things when said pain is coming from things that society doesn’t think should be painful.
I’ve been told to stop peeling scabs off my wrists, which, while physically painful, isn’t particularly an unpleasant feeling to me and generally makes me feel better, but when I point out that talking on phones can give me panic attacks just thinking about it and that I can walk to places I need to call and speak to people in person and there’ll be less sobbing in a ball on the floor, and I’m told Avoiding Things Is Bad.
It’s almost like society doesn’t really care about whether you’re hurting yourself and really just wants you to not look neurodivergent.
And related, I really want to start using “enabled” as a way to talk about people who aren’t disabled, especially wrt psychology. Because the way enabling gets used in psychology to be like “We can’t accomidate your behavior! That would be ENABLING you to act neurodivergent!” (Because the goal is always to be Normal like the rest of the world) seems like… I just want to snark YES I KNOW THAT WOULD BE ENABLING MY BEHAVIOR THAT’S THE WHOLE POINT!
Like, when you drive to a grocery store to buy chicken, the fact that there’s roads is enabling your choice to get around by driving and the fact that you can just buy it there is enabling your choice to not be a farmer. But nobody ever calls those things enabling because they’re normativized. In fact, if you did choose to farm your own chickens in the city people would probably look at you weird. They definitely often don’t seem to understand a preference for walking places because you can’t (and may or may not be able to) drive.
See, walking to a doctor’s office instead of calling them is dismissed as enabling your phone-phobia rather than “Yeah, that’s a really good idea, it also would get you excercise and that tends to help with depression too!” That’s a problem.
(Of psychiatric issues, that is)
By opposing self diagnosis you are telling people that they cannot understand themselves without outside help. You’re opposing self-determination. Like… How the fuck do any activist type people think that’s remotely okay?
And that’s not even getting into how fucked up psychiatric institutions can be. I cringe every time I see people being like “YOU NEED TO SEE A PSYCHIATRIST BECAUSE YOU’RE WEIRD!”
Just because like… given my experiences that seems like it’s telling people to go subject themselves to abuse.
It also seems like it’s an attempt to stop people with brains outside the norm from forming communities. Like: “Oh you shouldn’t associate with that community even though you have a LOT in common with them because you’re not really one of them” Ooo ooo also: “Self diagnosis never helps anyone” because apparently being able to know that there are other people like you and that you can talk to them about how to cope with this stuff is unhelpful. YOU KNOW.
It’s creepy as fuck. Like creepy in the same way demanding trans people have gatekeepery therapists and then insisting that they assimilate post-transition is creepy. Because it’s pretty much exactly the same thing. “Pass yourself off as exactly like everyone else because otherwise PRIVILEGED PEOPLE MIGHT BE UNCOMFORTABLE! And for the love of god don’t form communities that would mean you might be able to discover that we have no fucking clue what we’re talking about and we’re systematically treating you like shit!”
And additional WordPress bonus commentary:
- Self-diagnosis is not the same as self-medication; the latter actually is dangerous. The former is not particularly. Many psychiatric issues are not mental illness (say, autism) and there isn’t really any obvious way to medicate and “cure” is of questionable desirability.
- Doctors are not infallible. Psychiatric institutions are often seriously fucked up and coercive and dehumanizing. Insisting that they aren’t all is derailing. And insisting that there is danger in self misdiagnosis while ignoring the rather significant danger in professional misdiagnosis is really fucked up.
- There is a huge difference between informed self-diagnosis and hypochondria (“Oh no I’m occasionally energetic I must have bipolar!”) or appropriation (“I put a lot of effort into sorting my music lol I’m so OCD”) and the best response to either of those is not to tell a person they can’t possibly have the condition in question, but to educate them on what the conditions actually are; as, for example, I do put a lot of effort into organizing my music and this is a manifestation of my OCD, but it is hardly the only symptom, and the “can’t wash dishes without panic attacks” and “looking at raw meat can make me gag” symptoms are the ones that really disrupt my life.
- In the US at least, professional diagnosis can be extremely expensive and in rural locations there may not be any nearby resources to provide it. Going to a doctor actually requires a lot of privilege here.
- Biases and stereotypes significantly effect who gets diagnosed with what. Autism is significantly underdiagnosed in women, for example. And because my depression was less dramatic than my brother’s, nobody noticed it until I was failing out of college.